Today I ask this question: What three adjectives do others likely use to describe you?
I often have my clients first write down how they would like to be described and then square that up against how they imagine they currently fare.
That’s the challenge today in my “The Communicator” column in the Your Work section of the Sunday Independent.
If you’ve ever had a 360 report done on you, you know what I’m talking about. If you haven’t, reach out to me or your employer to get one. Kind of like President Trump’s 100 Days gauge, without hitting the front pages. Reality. Check!
What we think about ourselves is less important that how we’re perceived by others.
It’s helpful to identify what traits or behaviours of ours may be holding us back.
It’s also important to not get defensive, but to get determined once you identify it.
Don’t cop out with the old, “Well, that’s just how I am” excuse. Instead, to use this expression I’ve learned since moving here to Ireland, “Cop on!”
It’s a lot like when my mom used to make me sit down at the piano in our dining room and practice. Every day for an hour. She would set the clock on the stove and I wasn’t to get up from the bench until the buzzer rang. Except sometimes, like the cheeky eight-year-old I was when I first started taking lessons, I would sneak over to the stove and move the alarm forward a few minutes to hurry it along. Naturally, my mom had no idea that somehow in our home, the passage of time was magically accelerated. Ha.
But, like learning to play the piano, you also can practice taking incremental steps toward changing your behaviour as I discuss in today’s column.
Experts agree leaders are made not born. So now that you’ve been born, let’s get together to make you better!
If you have an A. B. C. (Appearance, Behaviour or Communication) question for me – please write to me here or in care of the Sunday Independent and I’ll try to answer it in an upcoming column!
Your first homework challenge, make it a great week!